There are a lot of jokes being made about couples in lockdown together, but there’s a serious side too. As a Couples Therapist and Sexologist, I’m hearing first hand the challenges couples are experiencing. Increased time at home together, changes of roles within the family, extra responsibilities (like homeschooling kids!), financial pressure and anxiety are increasing tension within relationships. Many spare rooms are getting extra use right now!
Some experts are predicting a spike in divorce rates once lockdown ends, just as we saw in dozens of cities across China. But the situation isn’t all bad.
Like any challenging time, this viral pandemic can bring you and your partner even closer. We have a chance to focus on what really matters right now. This is an opportunity to address any issues that might have been simmering under the surface and find ways to move forward as a team. With the right tools and support, your relationship can emerge stronger than before.
Here are my tips on how to not only survive lockdown but thrive…
Your time apart is going to be pretty limited, so try to get space where you can. Structure time together and time apart.
* Work from different rooms or with headphones on if you find each other distracting.
* Go for walks outside separately.
Research on happy relationships shows that couples who share household chores have higher relationship satisfaction (and higher sexual satisfaction) than those who don’t. That’s more important than ever.
* Discuss how you’ll manage tasks together.
* Schedule time when you’ll each look after the kids so that you both get a break.
Financial stress causes many household arguments. Ensure that you’re managing finances together as a team.
* Talk about your financial goals together.
* Revise your expenditure.
* Regularly discuss the state of your finances.
Lockdown is like being in a pressure cooker. You’re both a little on edge and have more chance of pushing each other’s buttons. How we communicate matters.
* Be mindful of how you’re raising difficult topics and choose your words wisely.
* Try not to take a partner’s comments personally.
There’s a good chance that with increased stress and increased time together your sex life will take a nosedive. That’s perfectly understandable at a time like this.
* Instead of putting pressure on yourselves to reignite it right now, aim to build your connection, intimacy and teamwork instead.
Isiah’s Wholehearted Partnerships ProgramAre you starting to feel the pressure of lock-down on your relationship? Or have you made a conscious decision that you want to use this current time we’re in to strengthen your relationship? With the right tools and support, your relationship can emerge stronger than ever. Isiah is offering a free day program and support group to help your relationship thrive during this challenging time.You get practical, actionable tools to help you:
* Rebuild connection
* Diffuse tension
* Create intimacy
* Bring the fun and playfulness back to your relationshipEach activity takes less than 15 minutes, and you’ll get:
* Playful, practical exercises each day for 21 days to build intimacy and connection
* Live group coaching calls
* Expert interviews and advice
* Bonus resources and tips
You can join at any time – there’s no specific start date. You’re also welcome to join even if your partner doesn’t want to. You’ll still get benefits by joining the group and implementing the advice alone.>>> CLICK HERE to join