10 ways to show YOURSELF SOME LOVE
WE PUT A LOT OF ENERGY INTO CARING FOR OTHERS BUT STRUGGLE TO DO SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR OURSELVES OR EVEN ACCEPT A COMPLIMENT.
Here is your over-due lesson in self-love.
1. Spend time with others
When we have low self-esteem, we’re extremely focused on ourselves, like what we can or can’t do and how we look. Doing something for others switches the focus. You feel that you’re being of service and contributing to the world.
2. Go For a Walk
Sometimes the simplest things make the greatest gifts. Give yourself some time – whether it’s 10 minutes or an hour – to walk through a favourite park or neighbourhood and just be with your thoughts. Leave your fitness tracker at home – it’s OK for some things to be about enjoyment, not goals.
3. Change Your Posture
You can tell when someone is feeling low simply by their posture. The telltale sign? They slouch in their seats or let their heads hang. To boost your mood, pose like Superwoman, standing with you chest raised and hands on your hips. It changes how your body feels. It changes how you feel about yourself.
4. Promote Positive Talk
Start your day with a positive message: Create a personal mantra like: ‘I am a big, bright shining star and I’m going to shine forever. It may sound silly, but the importance of creating positive self-talk in a society where we’re encouraged to have a lot of negative talk is very important.
5. Buy Yourself a Gift
That cool pair of workout pants you’ve been eyeing? Buy them! And yes, you would like them gift-wrapped, thank you very much. After all, charity begins at home.
6. Give Yourself a Massage
Regular massage is good for the skin and for the soul. Treat yourself to a nightly facial massage with a serum. It doesn’t just benefit the skin; it feels good, too. It’s an act of kindness that can radiate through your body and you’ll notice that your skin looks brighter, healthier and more hydrated.
7. Clean Out Your Closet
Okay, cleaning may not seem like the most self-celebratory act, but Andrew takes a sort of Marie Kondo approach. Just as the Japanese organizing consultant and author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up suggests that we purge items that don’t bring us joy, Andrew rids her home of things that bring her down. This includes those clothes we’re hoping to fit into again when we lose those last kilos.
8. Cook Something Special
Experiment with a dish that you’ve been dreaming of creating, and do it for yourself. Don’t save it for a dinner party because then it’s for someone else.
9. Let It All Hang Out
One of the best – and most fun – ways to celebrate yourself and your body is to dance naked. When you see your body move and find your own humour in dancing around naked, it really allows you to build a closer connection with who you are. Whether you do your own version of the Risky Business dance or bust a move in the shower, you’ll feel the joy of being in your body, not critiquing it.
10. Turn Off Your Phone
Unplug from social media and you’ll love yourself for it. A 2016 study found that regularly looking at others’ selfies lowers self-esteem and life satisfaction.