wellbeing: YOUR EMOTIONAL FITNESS WORKOUT

emotional-fitness-workout

YOU WORKOUT YOUR BODY, WHY NOT WORKOUT
YOUR EMOTIONS?

Here’s how you can keep ’emotionally fit’ in your relationships…


We worry about keeping our bodies in shape, but what about our love lives? It’s easy to be complacent in a long-term relationship and only pay attention to it when a major problem arises. It’s also easy to miss the warning signs and be surprised by a rift occurs between you and your partner. Here’s how to avoid all that, and keep your love life in ‘peak’ condition with these five easy exercises…

1. DEVELOP MUSCLES

Communication is crucial key to keeping a relationship strong but we rarely take the time to tell each other how we feel. Expecting your partner to know instinctively what we think or feel, doesn’t work all the time and can lead to confusion, misunderstanding and resentment.
Exercise: Spend an hour giving each other an update on what’s going on your life, how you’re feeling about the world, and each other.
Repetitions: At least once a week.

2. BUILD CIRCULATION

Appreciation and affection are the lifeblood of a great relationship, but it’s something we often forget about or take for granted. We all say, ‘I love you’, but once it’s been said over 100 times, it tends to lose it’s meaning. Instead try saying, ‘I love you because…’ or ‘I loved it when you…’
Exercise: Tell your partner three things you love or value about them, without be prompted.
Repetitions: Several times a week

3. PLAY BY THE RULES

There’s no such thing as a conflict-free relationship but there is such as thing as a respectful relationship. This means, when there is a conflict you don’t blurt out the most hurtful, nasty thing you can think of to get your point across. Always exercise control as insults will only erode respect and trust in your relationship.
Exercise: Whenever you’re about to lose it, focus on your breathing and tell your partner you both need some time to calm down – then agree to a time come back to discussing the issue constructively and rationally.
Repetitions: As necessary.

4. DETOX

Dumping all your resentment on your partner is going to do little to strengthen your relationship. In fact, it will do the opposite. Try to limit your complaints or criticism to those that matter – and be reasonable. You can’t change your partner’s personality but you can help alter their behaviour. Make your complaint or criticism specific about something they did, and then ask them to try and do it differently in the future. Chances are, they will.
Exercise: Write down every little niggly thing that’s been annoying you about your partner. Get it all out, be as mean as you like {on paper}, then screw it up and throw it away. Let it go and move on. {If there is something that is really annoying you, and you do need to get in off your chest, remember to repeat exercise 3.}
Repetitions: Whenever ‘toxic build-up’ occurs.

5. BUILD STAMINA

It’s completely realistic to feel bored and let down sometimes in a relationship. We’re all human. But relying on your relationship to solely provide you with all your stimulation and support can be unhealthy and destructive. Make sure your life is filled with outside interests and friends so you feel like you’re your own person rather than ‘half a couple’.
Exercise: Draw a grid with nine boxes. Put your partners name in one, and fill the rest with people and things that add value to your life. If you have some boxes empty, work on filling them with something new and exciting.
Repetitions: Every six months.

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{Pic: Glamour}


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